When (and How) to Ask for Feedback and Advocate for Yourself at Work
- amy Leighton
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
Growing at your job means reaching out and stretching yourself. If you stay stagnate and tend to avoid feedback, you may feel more comfortable, but you likely won’t get as far as you could within the company. If you don’t overcome the fear of asking for feedback and advocating for yourself, you’ll stay stuck. Here are some ideas for overcoming this fear of rejection and when to stand up for yourself.
Seeking feedback. Overcoming the hesitation to ask for feedback is a process. The first thing you want to think about is when to ask. If you’re seeking feedback from a colleague or manager, strategize when you’ll get the best input. Instead of approaching them just before a critical deadline, ask them just after you’ve learned a new skill. Schedule a time to sit down and talk to them and think ahead about what specific questions you’ll ask them. Be sure not to mentally check out if it gets tough and listen with intent. Ask for specific actionable things you can do to improve and make sure to thank them for the input.
Self-advocacy. Occasions may arise where you want to speak up for yourself rather than deal with a situation as it is. If done professionally and thoughtfully, this shouldn’t be an issue or something your team can’t manage. For example, if you need accommodations at work, it’s best to discuss this early on with your manager so they don’t think you’re not capable of some performing some required job task which may put your position at risk. Or, maybe you don’t feel like you’re being recognized for work you’re doing and someone else is taking credit for your accomplishments. Without seeming like you’re tattling, it’s a good idea to plant seeds now that you’re actually the one who did the work.
Communicating needs in a new role. It’s always a good idea to start off on the right foot at a new company. You don’t want to barge through the door making demands. This may put your work in question or as though you may be difficult to work with. So consider scheduling a time to meet with your new supervisor. Keep it brief overall, and start with stating all the great things you’ve noticed about the company already. Rehearse what you’ll say which could include physical changes like a different kind of desk or more assistance getting started on a task you’ve already encountered.
Finding ways to stand up for yourself is one of the most critical skills you can develop for your career growth and our life. It takes preparation, the right strategy to know when to ask for feedback and advocate for yourself, and it takes the courage to do it. You don’t need to be completely confident to approach a manager for feedback or to advocate for what you want. Look for small opportunities to work on your confidence and jump in.
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